Sometimes the simplest explanations come from the most unexpected sources. I’m currently re-reading the Virgin River series by Robyn Carr, specifically the book titled, “Paradise Valley.” In this story, a counselor is trying to help his client work through “stuff,” and the client is reluctant to talk about it. Here is part of the dialogue.. Counselor: “Tell me about the nightmares.” Client: “What if I don’t want to?” Counselor: “Well, that’s your prerogative, but here’s how counseling usually works. If you can bring it out in the light of day, take a good look at it, sometimes your mind helps you deal with it on a conscious, rational level as opposed to subconscious level, and the nightmares fade.” (Carr, 2009)
A counselor will prepare a client with different coping and grounding skills before discussing any traumatic events to prevent re-traumatizing the client. And if a client is not ready to talk about their trauma, a counselor can work with them on presenting issues such as anxiety, sleep issues, anger and depression through various beneficial techniques at the client’s pace.