’ve been particularly quiet on my blog for the month of December. I guess I don’t want to post just to post, so I’ve been seeking something meaningful to send out to everyone. What struck me just now, just after midnight (lol) is how differently people experience this month, or this time of year. Some people experience joy during the holiday season, taking in all kinds of experiences that remind them of traditions and good memories, or bring them hope. I recently attended a bell ringing concert by the Pikes Peak Ringers, and some of the members of this group shared their traditions between songs, some traditions focusing around food (some foods that I can’t even pronounce or spell!) and some traditions based on historical, and sometimes hysterical, rituals. It was endearing to hear what was important to different families this time of year.
For some, this time of year feeds their Type A behaviors as they delight in creating lists of just the right holiday gifts for family and friends, and then setting out to find and wrap and deliver all gifts before the deadline… an act of love in itself! I delight in watching their level of care and commitment to giving to others.
And for many, this time of year can be extremely difficult for a variety of reasons. Perhaps they have suffered great trauma in their past during this time of year that is brought forward to the present simply by the timing or the activities of the season. The struggle is real, and just making it through the holidays is enormous. Or perhaps they have lost a loved one who will no longer be here to share in the holiday traditions. To quote Carrie Bradshaw, “The loneliness is palpable.”
As I have taken all of this in over the past few weeks, my perception has been that everyone is seeking something different this time of year. My wish for this season is that there is understanding of this concept and compassion and respect for each other…no judgement, no shaming.
My mantra for many years has been that we all need to find what works for us spiritually and mentally. If embracing the holidays brings you joy, then do it! If not, then my hope is that you follow Erin Napier’s advice and find something good in every day as you would any day of the year. Set boundaries with yourself and others if necessary to keep spending in check, or to manage the emotions this season might bring up for you. Seek counseling if needed for further support.
To quote www.savorylotus.com, there are 5 tips to staying grounded. They state that “Like increases like, and Opposites Balance.” One tip for staying grounded according to their list, is to take time to “cultivate stillness in your daily life… to connect with yourself… draw your energy inward” and “to prepare for winter just as Mother Nature does.” I personally delight in the coming of winter – one of my favorite seasons in which I feel very attuned and at peace.
December 21, 2018 is the official date of winter this year. I wish everyone peace and balance this season and always.